Being a Godly wife



This lovely creature (or what is left of it) was on the ice at the river on New Year’s day.  Not what I expect to come across in January, but there it was.

Note, I am blogging with photos taken weeks ago because I’m not getting out and taking many photos these days.  Well, that’s not completely true.  The photos I took in the past two weeks were of events at the request of others.  The are not really mine to share (and I’m not sure everyone would be all that interested in photos from a 12-year-old girl’s birthday party with her friends or a school field trip for J’s class). 

I wish I was busy taking more photos that I want to share.  But no, I’m not, I’m busy with work and cars that need to get to the repair shop, mentoring a senior student on a huge paper (we meet 5 – 6 days a week at this point), running errands to help Andy prepare for trial which starts on Wednesday and preparing to be the mother of a teenager starting next week -guess who has a birthday coming up.  But all this busy busy has lead to some interesting experiences.

For example, on Friday I needed to get the car to the repair shop for a minor electrical issue that left it undrivable at night because the tail lights weren’t workings.  Anyway, Andy had to leave extra extra early that morning to go to Helena (by the way, no incidents to report from this trip to Helena).   So, I loaded my bike up into the back of the car, took it out to the repair shop, and road the bike 8 miles back to the office in the 35 degree weather on roads lined with melting ice and snow. 

It wasn’t as bad as I expected.  Actually, the portion where I was on the highway was better than some of the town roads – lots of space on the shoulder along 191, but some pretty narrow roads in town, with cars whizzing by right at my elbows.  And the “big hill” I had to go up was much more gradual than I expected, so I went right up without having to go into the granny gear or get off and walk, both of which were things I expected might happen.

That is the kind of adventure that takes up my blogging time these days.  Tonight I just happen to have some time at the office while J does his hope work and Andy puts together his trial binder so we can go home and eat a very late dinner.  Gotta take advantage of the opportunities that come.

So, hello blog readers.  Sorry I don’t have anything more exciting for you right now.  It is supposed to snow tomorrow, so I do not think I’ll get out and take many photos.  Besides, it is the day before a 3-day trial starts, so I’ll be crazy busy supporting Andy as he prepares.

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Older photos  today (except the scrapbooking below) because this has been a week where I didn’t get out to photograph.  The photos here were taken last year in October, and the first two were taken in the area now closed due to fire.  My big hope is to get out tomorrow morning early and go to an open area and get some fall photos, because the colors are starting to change, and if I don’t get out soon I’ll miss them.  So, Lava Lake is my destination, hopefully with some company along the way as I’ve invited my two favorite men to join me (eh, that would be J and Andy, not necessarily in that order, but I’ll leave you guessing on that part).


– two –

So, I was assigned a mentee at church earlier this week, and wouldn’t you know it, that is just the week when I go all haywire and have a yelling screaming breakdown – basically behaving in a way that is absolutely not mentor quality and is really quite shameful.  I’m picking myself back up (with the help of a forgiving Lord and a forgiving husband), and trying to get back on track.  What a mess I am – and I suspect most anyone in the human category could say the same, but right now my focus is on getting myself cleaned-up and ready to be more glorifying to God. 

Life is often humbling, don’t you think?

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I frequently post on a scrapbooking website (Studio Calico) letting the ladies there know I’ve blogged.  And usually I feel a bit self conscious because my posts rarely include the products of my scrapbooking.

Um, that would most likely be because I don’t do much scrapbooking these days.  Heck, it took me 3 or 4 months to do the page I’m sharing here (yes, I said months, not hours, not days, not weeks, indeed months).  I am so grateful to have a dedicated scrapbook space so that a project like this can sit for months, I can pass by, re-arrange the elements, do a little technique experiment, or whatever, and then walk on to do the other things that life is demanding of me.  Thus, a 3 – 4 month page process is possible in my world.

But the good news is that after finishing this last Saturday, I quickly (well, relatively quickly) punched out a single page layout, which was completed by the end of the day on Sunday.  I’ll share it next week sometime, because it is not photographed yet.


This page was inspired by a layout I saw on the Prima Blog some time ago – so long ago I cannot find it quickly.  But I do want to say I was inspired by their blog.  With two pagers I’ve always enjoyed having a photo that crosses the center split, because I use post albums, and when installed properly, that split is barely noticeable.  It just gives such better flow to the whole layout when I do this.  But it is not everyone’s “cup of tea.” 

Anyway, I hope you enjoy this layout, particularly if you came here from Studio Calico and have noticed that I rarely blog layouts.  I’ll try to do better, but can’t make any promises.

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We are so blessed to have our Bible Study families.  They are amazing.  I think I mentioned recently that we’ve been meeting with these couples in one form or another for 8+ years now.  And I have to tell you, they are just the biggest blessing to us.  We went camping with them, and yes, that was exciting and fun.  But the best part really is the weekly sharing of our lives as we study and talk about applying God’s word.  It really is the most enriching faith experience I’ve ever had.  I’ve heard some mighty good preaching in person and on the radio, but the small group experience just tops it all for me.


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We were blessed recently by the gift of 24 packages (over a pound each) of ground bison – shot recently down in the Ennis area.  I don’t know about the rest of you, but that is like 2-3 months worth of red meat for our family.  Sure helps the budget out when this happens!  And it’s healthy (all natural/organic for sure).

Turns out the wealthy land owner who raises bison for the purpose of shooting it himself and letting his friends shoot them had his son take a 1600 pound guy in to be processed, and the son mistakenly had it all turned into burger, when the family prefers steaks.  Realizing it would just sit unused in their freezers (getting freezer burn) they kept some, but gave the rest to their chef, our friend Daniel, to distribute as he saw fit.  Guess who he saw fit?  Yep, we and many other families were blessed by the error of the young man.

Did I tell you Daniel is one of the men in our Bible Study group?  Yep, sure enough, he is. 

See you next week!

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I didn’t get to blogging about proactivity yesterday because I was busy being proactive.  That’s what you thought, right?

Actually, it is true, I was being proactive. 

The beginning of the month brings about a task that is daunting for me – doing the billing for Andy’s law office.  It is daunting because it means a good 5 – 7 hours in front of the computer tracking a months worth of time in 6 minute increments.  It is tedious, and I’m not always good at tedious.

So, I’ve set out to get the billing done as early in the month as I can.  And this is proactivity at it’s best because it shows a plan, a long-term goal being reached for, not just motions being gone through.

With billing, the long-term goals  are as follows:

  1. Be supportive of my husband in his work by doing what would be a burden for him and does not require his particular expertise.  That in turn allows him to grow his business to something that can support us in the lifestyle he believes is best for us.  It also allows him to do his work in a way that has time to treat his clients with respect and not as just commodities that help him pay the bills.
  2. Help our household make money – lets face it, without the billing, we wouldn’t get paid, and then we wouldn’t eat.  Plain and simple.
  3. Reduce my stress by getting it done as soon as possible – no nights waking up thinking – I’ve got to get the bills to the Public Defender or they won’t pay us until next month, and then we won’t be able to pay the mortgage or the phone bill, or buy gasoline, or have dinner every night . . . and on and on and on.  No, don’t need those kind of nights, so have to get the billing done a.s.a.p. each month.

That’s the thing with proactivity – it gives a hope that all the things we set out to do can be accomplished. 

Note I said a hope, not a guarantee. 

Yeah.  That can be hard to swallow sometimes.   It is just a hope, and not a guarantee. 

Wouldn’t it be nice if there was a guarantee that being proactive about a chore like billing would bring about the achievement of all our goals?  Why, then all of life’s goals would be in the control of us and what we do.

But that isn’t the way it is.  We can get all the things done, be proactive about every aspect of our lives, even drive ourselves to exhaustion running around making sure that what we want is accomplished, but that does not guarantee achievement of all our goals. 

Circumstances change. 

Other people’s actions impact our pathway to achievement.

Sometimes we even change our mind about our goals and don’t want the same thing any more.

But there is one hope that doesn’t change.  The hope in salvation.  It really is a guarantee.  You know why?  Because it is already accomplished.

Christ already died for our sins on the cross.  When we have faith and believe in His promises it is more than just the hope of things to come.  It is the assurance of what has already been done.  Through that assurance we can look to the future of heaven, not knowing exactly what it will be like, but filled with hope that will not be diverted. 

Now, I’ll continue to try to get my billing done early each month, because it is a step towards some goals that I hope to achieve, but know may always be elusive.  And it is responsible.

But it is not the thing I hang my hat on in life.

Faith in Jesus, well now, that is a hope I’m willing to hang my hat on.

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Yet those who wait for the LORD will gain new strength;

They will mount up with wings like eagles,

They will run and not get tired,

They will walk and not become weary.

Isaiah 40:31

You cannot believe how applicable that verse is to our 2010 – literally walking and not becoming weary after waiting almost 10 years for pain relief  is the story of us this year.

2010 was a year about many issues and excitement and events.  But yesterday, as Andy and I snowshoed in the single-digit temps I came to think it was more about one thing than anything else – a like new hip for my beloved which has put him in a pain-free position for the first time in almost a decade!

The year started with me returning to the work-force for the first time in over 11 years.  Full time too!

But that job provided two things that were necessary to get that new improved resurfaced  hip – health insurance and additional cashflow.

No matter how much I miss being at home and focused on our family and home all of the time, it was worth it.

Worth it when almost exactly 3 months after getting the new hip, just a few moments after this photo (above) was taken, he turned to me, gave me a sweet little kiss, and said “Thank you for my hip.”

Sort of gives a very tangible example of what it is to be a helpmate.

Then, that afternoon he did this:

Yep, that man of mine went skiing – and he did at least one black diamond run.

All on his three-month new resurfaced hip.

And he was pain-free.

Thank you God for the enormous change you brought into 2010 – a job that allowed us to afford healing and strength in the timing you had for us.  All of this we know came from you!


That, my friends, is a simple but in some ways very thorough summary of the story of 2010 for the AJBs and me.

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